Surrender

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“I wonder if pain comes from surrendering or resisting?”  ~Donna Lynn Hope

 

 

I have been taking stock recently of my life.  This journey in retirement has been interesting, and has taught me many things so far.  With a year into this journey, I am not sure sometimes if I am where I am supposed to be.  I have long controlled my life.  Planned, over planned and tried to wrap it up in a nice, neat bundle doing what I think I should be doing.  Many times not listening to that little voice to guide me.

 

 

And in those times, life was hard, unhappy and full of pitfalls into which I fell hard.  I would get up, and control things even more, resisting the path being shown usually because of fear.  And inevitably pain would be a big part of my life.  Along with the feeling that life was unhappy, and I would never find real joy.

 

 

DSCN3355And of course life is anything but nice and neat many times.  I am never sure what it will bring me next.  But I have noticed since I stopped controlling my life and its journey, I have been happier.  It is not easy to drop what you had been doing for over 30 years, and strike out on a new path.  A path not even defined, with very little direction.  Just showing up each day and wondering what it is I am supposed to do, and where I am supposed to go.

 

 

I do feel like I have been drifting lately.  And that drifting is okay when you need time to heal yourself.  But it seems it is time now, to start contemplating what is next.  And instead of trying to take control and orchestrate the life I think I am supposed to live, I have instead surrendered to the Universe.  I am looking for those signs that will show me what is next…listening for that inner voice to talk with me again.

 

 

It take’s patience to surrender…another lesson I am learning.  Living each day in the moment, exploring and taking a few risks.  These are scary steps, but oh so much better than giving into boredom and complacency, where I tend to reside when I am afraid to move out of my comfort zone.

 

 

One of the most important lessons I have learned in surrendering, is that there is great freedom when I loosen my grip.  When I let slip those tight reins I have on my life, I open my heart to joy, wonder, and infinite possibilities.

 

 

I did say this was my year to soarflowing with and following a path DSCN5360shown to me in small steps.  And recently I have been taking a few test flights to try out my new wings.  But I think it might be time to step out a bit further, and maybe from a higher branch.  To fly from this place of surrender, and have faith that I am doing the right thing.  Knowing that these wings will lift me up to new places, new challenges and wonderful adventures.  After all if I don’t,  look what I might be missing.  A whole wonderful world just waiting for me.

 

 

 

Note:   In the Language of Flowers, grass represents submission; a synonym for surrender.  These wonderful tall ornamental grasses grow in my garden every summer and bloom in the fall, finally surrendering in winter to the snow.

 

 

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I leave you with another thought about surrender.  Feel free to download this photo and share.

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40 Replies to “Surrender”

  1. In martial arts there is the action to yield – not the same as surrender Donna – more deliberate and active without the connotations of being overwhelmed – like your lovely grasses yielding their soft stems to the force of the wind – and so you become airborne 🙂

  2. Interesting distinction between surrender and yielding. I agree “surrender” carries emotional connotations of being overwhelmed, of not being in a situation intentionally but being there despite best efforts to avoid it. And at times, the decision to relinquish the fantasy of control feels just like that.

  3. Your opening image is stunning 🙂 I think often we are too hard and demanding on ourselves when we should perhaps be surrendering to find more freedom for ourselves. But that takes a leap of faith…

  4. “I think it might be time to step out a bit further, and maybe from a higher branch.” The first thing I thought of, Donna, is that I need to put the saddle of my exercise bike one notch down to make my new knee bend more. While you go up higher, I’ll go down lower and see if we both can accomplish something new for the days ahead. It may be the perfect step for TODAY! Thanks for sharing this Journey with us….

  5. I love the tall grasses, Donna, so soothing as they surrender to the wind. I needed to read this today as a reminder to let go and let things happen as they are meant to be. It is so true that resisting and controlling brings pain at times. But surrendering can be so freeing and healing. A wonderful post! Have a lovely weekend 🙂

    1. I am so glad this was a help to you Loredana….writing out my lessons helps to remind me too as this is a day by day journey. Hope you have a wonderful, warm, sunny weekend!

  6. This is so beautifully written – and very peaceful in its shared recognition of something experienced by all productive people. My personal challenge is to simply enjoy a day where nothing is accomplished. I need and deserve those hours, but just won’t give them to myself without a fight!

    1. I know what you mean Joyce. I am so busy in retirement, that I am not taking time to just be many weeks. I had set aside one day, and have not kept that promise to myself. You remind me I need to get back to it again….a day to just be and to do nothing!

    1. I know what you mean Deb….but each time I allow it is a good moment and hopefully with practice we will be able to continue surrendering longer. So glad you enjoyed the post.

  7. I really hope your life takes a turn for the better in your retirement. It would be hard always questioning life and trying to learn a better way to live it. Each day is a gift and that is the way I approach it.

    1. Actually I am really enjoying my retirement Donna. I love learning about life and being on this new journey even on those days where life and circumstances may challenge me…..and I love sharing the lessons I am learning. It is just part of me to be philosophical…a subject I also enjoy. And I couldn’t agree more with you, that our lives are a gift to be enjoyed each day.

    1. Oh I am very relaxed, and enjoying my retirement which is also one year on now….I enjoy it because I am learning with each step on this new journey. Happy Retirement to you!

  8. The concept of surrendering to what life brings is an interesting one. I think what I am trying to achieve is more of a balance between surrender and control — having a plan and taking action to get where I want to go, but also being able to go with the flow when those plans don’t work out or being flexible enough to take advantage of unforeseen opportunities. I’ve long embraced the philosophy of the serenity prayer: Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change (which seems similar to your concept of serenity), the courage to change the things I can (which seems to me to be about agency and action), and the wisdom to know the difference (which is the part I have most trouble with and always need to work on).

      1. My mother used to recite that prayer often Jean, and I agree it is similar to my idea of surrender. I Love the idea of balancing surrender with control…it makes sense….and I think on some level that may be exactly what I am trying to do. Thanks Jean!

  9. Control is a very difficult thing to give up. It gives us a false sense of security, but the universe has a wonderful plan for you. What fun you will have on your road to discovery. xo Laura

  10. Interesting post! I’m one of those controller people who want it all done in an orderly fashion. But I learned a long time ago that I’m not really in charge and, since moving to New Zealand, have learned that it’s ok not to be in charge. Surrender has many facets but I think most of them lead to a more peaceful life.

  11. A thoughtful and thought provoking post, Donna! Thank you for visiting my blog and commenting on my tree(s). The sun is shining and I think spring, which has finally arrived, is rocketing by, propelling us into summer this year, though doubtless there will be some returns to winter (icy mornings!) along the way!

  12. I too have been living through some big changes in my life and feeling adrift. I think it’s not a slam dunk. Each day is like a single footstep down an unknown path. However, that is part of the fun of it don’t you think? We will figure it out. I have faith that we will.

    Big Texas Hugs,
    Susan and Bentley

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